How to Make Your Dating Profile Stand Out + Get You Dates

It’s a minefield right? You’ve decided to give online dating a go or you’ve had an online profile since the year dot and you’re just not getting the dates.  Writing your profile’s making you feel sick. You have no real idea what to say. You really don’t want to sound cheesy. Or desperate. Or arrogant. Or boring.

What you want is a profile that stands out from all the rest, one that catches the attention of plenty of potential dates. You want a profile that’s really you, one that shows you at your very best.

Don’t worry! We’re here to share 7 ways to make your online dating profile stand out AND most importantly get you the dates you deserve.{click to tweet} It worked for us and will for you too.Let’s start at the very beginning…

  1. Have a great username. Most usernames are downright lazy, it’s really easy to stand out right from the get go so why not make the effort and create something a bit different?  Most people choose the first name they come up with and add a handful of random numbers. There are way to many Surferdude123 and SELondonChicks out there. Believe me, you can do so much better than that. Your username is your chance to stand out. You want something that is unique, showcases your personality and stops someone in their tracks. Write a list of key identities, things you love about life, your hobbies, things that are uniquely you. Play around with them. Make your username easy to remember, you can be humorous and playful if you want.  Always keep your profile name positive. Check out usernames online that jump out at you. What do you like about them? Use some examples as inspiration for creating your own.
  2. Write a headline that’s a hook. When it comes to online dating we all have short attention spans, especially now in the age of Tinder. The idea of your headline is to act like a giant hook. You want to write something that grabs attention, something that makes someone smile or say “hell yeah, I want to know more.” The point of your headline is to invite someone in to read your profile.  Think of a quote you love from a film or song, or from a book you’ve read. How about something humorous, that showcases your personality. Or, how about an unfinished statement that you’ll complete in the first line of your profile? You want to spark someone’s curiosity, you want to leave them wanting to know more, right?
  3. Show don’t tell. This is where you really get to show who you are rather than telling in a long, boring list of hobbies, interests and whatever comes to mind. This is your chance to showcase who you are. Lists are dead boring, so, instead you’re going to show rather than tell a potential date who you are. Think of it as a snap shot of your life, a micro story if you like.  Write a brief day in the life of story that really captures who you are and what makes you you. How about instead of listing off things like: “I’m open minded, like travel to hot countries, enjoy good food and wine, get on well with people, have a sense of humour”, (you know the stuff we read in EVERY profile), how about something different? How about sharing a moment from your holiday in Sicily with your best friends? The conversation you had in the shade of an ancient olive tree with chilled Sicilian wine where you discussed whether or not to get a tattoo?
  4. Be interesting and be positive. I know you’re in a hurry to get a profile written so you can begin dating but when you make the effort it’s easy to stand out. Limit the number of sentences you begin with “I”, it can all become quite monotonous. How about asking a question in your profile to encourage a response? Be positive in how you write about yourself, your profile really is your very own press release. Ask yourself when you’ve read through your profile, “Would I date me?”
  5. Get creative. Instead of reeling off a list of hobbies, sports, leisure activities and pastimes as well as a shopping list of requirements of your ideal date, how about weaving these throughout your profile. Remember, your profile is a snapshot of who you are, you don’t need to give them everything in one go….not sure that your driving licence and your GCSE results are strictly necessary on your online dating profile (true story)! How about, “I imagine myself with a man/woman who enjoys …” would be a good place to start. ‘Locking eyes across a crowded room is where my imagination takes me, I’m attracted to a man/woman who…” you fill in the blanks and then get creating your own.
  6. Ditch the clichés. Everyone likes curling up watching films, likes country walks, meeting up with mates and has a good sense of humour. Most profiles are cliché ridden. Yours will not be like that! The moment you feel a cliché coming on, stop yourself and write something much more appealing! Be creative, be witty, choose your words with care so that your profile is different from the hundreds of others your potential date will be looking at.
  7. Get awesome photos. There is no excuse for shabby photos! I’ve seen way too many bathroom selfies, blurred photos, and photos where an ex has been cropped out. Just don’t! Have some pride in yourself and your appearance online. Make sure your photos really rock. Read this post from Saturday Night’s Alright, our resident photography guru, on the benefits of hiring a pro.

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